The Race Versus The Reality

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In 2007, there was buzz around the drag community that RuPaul was shooting some kind of show in her garage for drag queens.  I remember queens like Jewels talking about it after a Sunday Brunch drag show in Long Beach at Hamburger Mary’s (although it wasn’t called that at the time it was Mick & Mack’s).  I remember thinking… “her garage?”

Fast forward to 2018 and the 10th season of RuPaul’s Drag Race hosted by Emmy Award Winning RuPaul Charles, there is no doubt the Race has risen like a Phoenix or a penis (let’s get real, who knows about any other Phoenix than Season 3’s Phoenix O’Hara – who didn’t rise too far in the competition, unfortunately).  But never would anyone have thought the Drag would have so greatly influenced mainstream media.

The problem with this influence is the responsibility that comes with it.  A group who had previously been so looked over as “too-feminine”, “wannabe girls”, and even “trannies” had been given a stage much larger than they were used to being on.  They were put in front of potentially billions of people.  Anyone with access to a TV and eventually an internet connection could see what they said and did.  Those who identified with their favorite queens were living on every word.  “Throwing shade” “reading” “cutting a bitch’s wigs” while in a competition was the light they were seen in.

But what about the parts of drag that we don’t see?  The charitable events drag queens attend and throw to raise money for kids, or those with HIV/AIDS, or any other great cause.  The shows they put on at clubs that are near empty, but they’re up in that gig with the hopes of their event getting some exposure and gaining momentum.  The hours they spend to get ready to make tips, or if they’re lucky $50 – $100 bucks.  The messages of love, persistence, and inspiration they convey to their audience is ever present.

RuPaul calls Drag Race the “Olympics of drag” and tells the girls they need to bring their all when they’re on that show.  The thing is, some of these girls have been grinding and pushing and going through the struggle for years and years.

The girls who haven’t been on that show or even other competitive drag shows like Dragula, don’t have the luxury of booking managers, recognition, thousands of followers on social media, and whatever else we deem as “success” in drag.  In my opinion, they’ve been running a triathlon, an iron-man even, without so much as a medal at the end of the race. The Olympian has been going long before their appearance on the show.

While Drag Race, Dragula and shows like them, give the queens selected for the shows “success”, their responsibility to their audience and fans is an example of kindness, love, and caring for each other.  The title gained as a “star of the show” is not a relief of responsibilities as a leader of the community.  These queens must be mindful young people are watching, seeing mentors, role-models, and aspirations to be similar. The influence of Drag is awesome, let’s ensure the influence includes inclusivity, support, and encouragement.  Remember where we come from.

Ours is a community that has been (and still is) judged, condemned, spat on, beat up, and even bombed all for loving who we love. There are enough external forces attempting to tear us down. Value each other.  Value life. Value that people are struggling with things we cannot imagine struggling with.  Be grateful for what you do have and be encouraging because when one of us is successful, we’re all successful.

Know that your success is our success, your voice is our voice, if you’re saying bad things, we’re saying bad things.  If you’re threatening someone’s life over their opinion about your favorite drag queen, we’re threatening someone’s life. It’s not fair that we’re all judged by the actions of a few, but let’s make those actions positive ones.  If we unite, be positive, and agree to disagree when we differ, we’ll be a beacon.

 

Trio of Tweets from Trump TRANSform the Troops

Yesterday’s upsetting trio of tweets by the commander-in-chief has the community in an outrage.   The United States has been in a tizzy since the “election heard ’round the world” and it seems like every day there’s something new with the “new guy” to talk about.  But the latest upset has reached a new low.

45 stated that “…the United States Government will not accept or allow Transgender individuals to serve in any capacity in the U.S. Military…” due to some fictional burden he’s determined to exist.  Talk about “Fake News” it was revealed that a fraction of a percentage of the military’s budget would go to medical expenses for the trans service people who are bravely serving the country.

It was important to Drag Queens Galore, who has an outstanding and loving following that consists of many beautiful trans family members, that we speak out and let our trans family know that you are loved.  It must have been a crazy day for you hearing all of this in the media and the “aim” of his latest hate being aimed at you.  If you follow this blog, you know where we stand on 45.  But we apologize for him just the same, even though we don’t see him as a representative of how we feel.

You will now see the beauty of the community, who comes together to fight against the world when any of us are “come for” outside of our community.  When we come together we’re much stronger.  When we stay together we’re indestructible.  Yes, we have our internal conflicts, but remember this part, this part when we won’t let anyone hurt us.  When US means all of us, no matter what shape, color, background we are.

Love each other, fight for each other, we’re family.  Our family is being torn apart by petty arguments about M&Ms when we have to come together and support each other.  LOVE is all that matters and that love will fuel the fight against our fiercest enemies.  We can defeat hate with love, understanding, compassion, and care.  Remember, people fear what they don’t understand, so let’s help them understand.  Understand that 15,000 troops are important to the dwindling numbers of military service people, regardless of their gender.  They agreed to die for this country. THEY VOLUNTEERED TO DIE FOR THE COUNTRY, we owe them so much more than this betrayal.

To our trans family, we love you, we see you, you are not a burden, your rights matter to us and we will continue to spread our message until our last breath.  Thank you to those who have served and volunteered to give your life so we can live in this free world where we still have freedoms we take for granted every day.

EVERYONE SAY LOVE, AND MEAN IT!

Party Monsters United!

What happens when infamous party throwers and drag queens The Boulet Brothers invite a legendary club kid and performance artist, Kevin Aviance to their show?

Find out TONIGHT!  If you’re in the LA area get up, get out and meet legendary queens, The Boulet Brothers as they host Kevin Aviance for their weekly show Queen Kong.  It’s a show you don’t want to miss!

For details and more information on the show, visit The Boulet Brothers’ Facebook Event page.  Be sure to Follow The Boulet Brothers and Kevin Aviance on social media for additional photos and fun at the show.

Drag Heals

glitterhighheelRecently, Drag Queens Galore received a rather long email from what seemed like a disgruntled reader.  There were sentences like, “Allow me to relate to you the horror I just went through….” and ” because of the lack of up to date accurate information of this kind.”

At first, I thought, “Oh no, what did I write wrong now?” Try as I might, there will always be someone more informed, more “in the know” than me or my sources.  But when I found out the message was about not having a drag show to go to, I thought, “The power of drag.”

The writer of the message, who we’ll call Charlotte, was frustrated from searching for a good drag show in her neighborhood.  As you know, the search engines are getting more and more spam filled and depending on which version of some of the internet…. searches, you can get more commercials than actual answers to your inquiry.  Charlotte was looking high and low, with limited available resources that you and I probably take for granted.  See Charlotte lives in Colorado, she’s got limited mobility and due to a sexual assault, she’s got a slew of other baggage that comes along with the mental damage her assailant has left her with.

So, as is for many with limited mobility, she is on an income that has to pay for healthcare on top of the average living expenses.  So she’s cut out cell phone service (no apps) and internet (she uses the public library) and doesn’t drive (she uses public transportation).  Even with all of this going on, Charlotte’s concern?  Break up the monotony of doctor visits, lawyer visits and working to see a drag show.

A drag show she couldn’t find even though the internet told her to go to a specific address to find one.  Imagine the emotional roller coaster she’s already been on followed by the sucker punch of no drag show after all she’d gone through to get to the address she thought was right.

When Charlotte told me her story, I thought to myself, ‘how much do I take for granted?’  First off, I can walk around, to say the least, search things on my phone and sit at my computer all within the confines of my home.  Everyone knows public transportation in California is a joke, so the car has become somewhat of a necessity, but I have to that access as well.  But mostly, I take for granted that I can just go to a drag show any night of the week and know I’m going to get something great.

But what is it that makes drag so important?  Why does a single show have such an impact that someone with such difficulty getting around would save up to travel such lengths to see one?

For me, I think it’s an escape.  You’re in a club/bar/lounge/festival or whatever the venue, surrounded by people, some of who have been through hell to be able to call themselves LGBT, but all who appreciate the struggle and celebration of what it means to be part of this community.  And a performer has completely transformed himself into this larger than life character who focuses on you for 5 seconds.  In that 5 seconds, you matter, not only do you matter, but you matter to the person everyone is there for!  And even if you spent your entire day being looked over, talked down to, or treated badly, this performer has made your day!

Drag Queens Galore has always stuck by the core value of being a promoter of drag.  That doesn’t mean every show is shared here, it doesn’t mean you’ll catch the scoop here.  But when the queens meet me and the first words out of their mouths are, “oh, you’re the nice one” it makes me feel like I’ve done it right.  So, that being said, appreciating drag is not the same as being a fan[atic].  There are so many styles, so many versions, so many definitions of drag that no ONE in particular is the right one.  As long as you’re bringing that feeling of, “thank goodness for this performer,” to your audience, you’ll win every time.

Charlotte is headed to a show this weekend, by the way.  So don’t worry about her, she’s going to have a great time!  As I hope you do as well.  And don’t take anything for granted, because there are so many without, be sure to take a step back and be grateful.

How did Drag change your day, night, week, month, year or even life?  What part of you did drag heal?  At the end of the day, all we need is a little more fabulous in our lives right?